Chores cant harm your child

Getting children to do chores is a great challenge to parents especially mothers who attach emotions to their children whenever they fill up their eyes with crocodile tears. Even though thes parents want to see their children grow and be responsible. We need to key in the abilityugh to see them mature into responsible being if we really want to achieve this goal; and this will start from the home before the larger community.

Suffice it to say thay that you might find yourself nagging them and eventually giving in, when this occurance repeats itself, what do you think you are instilling in such child. It is very important when you don't give in to their stubborness, because of the following reasons by BOP:
Motivation and emotion – in the old days, parents would allow their children to practice, under supervision, some of the basic life skills from hunting, to cooking and caregiving. In this way, the child would acquire through their experience, crucial tools such as judgement, self-control, and
the core values that are so necessary for their increasingly independent interaction with the real world during adolescence.
But if the only goal-setting that children learn is related to school, they will soon find themselves at sea the moment they try to leave the nest. While they may well have achieved considerable wisdom intellectually, they will be very immature when it comes to basic ‘survival’ skills, be they practical or social.
Chores have the advantage of honing children’s large and fine motor skills as well as developing their ability to think in the abstract.

Here are five tips that you can use to encourage your children to contribute to family life:

1. Resist the urge to try and do everything for them, even if you think that you can do a better job. Remember, we all have to start somewhere, and the best way for our children to learn, and emotionally
mature, is by us allowing them to make mistakes.
2. When our children express an interest in helping us, we must encourage this by giving them age- appropriate chores. So, young children could tidy away their toys after they’re finished playing with them, and older children could be tasked with
putting away the shopping after a trip to the supermarket.
3. Remember, it’s important to praise your child for the effort that they’ve made, regardless of whether they performed the task well. It’s about teaching them to recognise that the effort that they put in is
far more important than the end result. This will encourage them to keep trying even if they aren’t always successful in what they do.
4. If children see you taking a ‘fun’ approach to household chores, they are more likely to follow your lead. So, try and take a ‘Whistle While You Work approach to the task at hand, to set a good example to your children.
5. Most importantly, we should never ever bribe our children into doing chores by offering them a financial incentive or other kind of reward. As adults, we frequently have to do things that we don’t want to without reward, and often without thanks. So, if we teach our children to only behave
when a reward is on offer, then we are failing to prepare them for the demands of adult life.
Intrinsic motivation comes when three needs are realised:
1. Competence (sense of being able to achieve something)
2. Relatedness (being able to relate, and care for, others)
3. Autonomy (the feeling of being in control of your own actions)